Ok, hope i am in the right forum. I want to disscusse why isn't allowed for women to have more than one husband, while this is allowed for men in Islam? 

Someone mentioned once, if there is a child , how whould you know who the father is, to whom whould this child belong? well first of all a paternity test today is no probleme, it will go very fast. second the child belongs to the mother and no one else.

Another reason i have heared is, the polygamy in islam was due to the war at beginning of islamic history, most of the men were killed or missed during the war, so there were more women than men. Well today we are not anymore in a situation we need to extend Islam by war. But there are still men who have more than 1 wife.

Again another reason is, men should marry poor women to take custody of them. But why are women not permitted to marry poor men to take custody of them?

Ok people, i am open to read all argues and opinions from religious or  non religiuos people, muslims or non muslims, atheists, humanists, etc....

Guys i am talking about Muslims women, not about chines or nepals, I didn't write this thread only by accident in the post classic middle east forum.

Perhaps from the same reason men want to have more than one wife.

well it doesn't interest me how many men are women allowed to marry, i wanna know why men have the permittion, and why hadn't islam gave women this permittion.

why are you asking it to us? we didnt decide what is banned or not.

Yes i agree, Women are not allowed to keep their children when they are divorced, becouse Quran gives the child custody to the man. Even if the man is dead the grandfather will take the child, this is disgusting. 

Anyway i think it is time to talk about it, we are living in a modern time.

eric from where you got this idea? please dont mix culture with religion,

what you stated is not true.

the same with what you saying maziar about child costudy , its not true.

The best prove for my claim is the Iran's islamic law. After divorcing the father will have the custody for the child, if the father dies or by any reason can't care for the child so his father(child's grandfather) takes the children.  

Yes this makes sense to me. If we accept your theory (what i do), so we  assume there was a situation of distress. So we can say today this tradition is obsolete, and there is no need to practisize it anymore.

Well dear Maziar,
First of all I would like to say that non of the major religions allow this act and one of the most basic reason behind it is that; If a woman has more than one husband and she gets pregnant, how one decide whose child she is carrying.

I mean while there wasn't any advance technology to determine the blood group of the child and all those other DNA tests, how could one know a child's father while there is more than one husband at a time.

That's (as far as I know) why Islam and all other major religions don't allow more than one husband at a time and men are allowed four wives at a time only if he could provid all 4 equal rights and could feed all 4 of them. So the option for men are also not as easy as said.

I have already answered to this one, please read my main post again, i wrote:"Someone mentioned once, if there is a child , how whould you know who the father is, to whom whould this child belong? well first of all a paternity test today is no probleme, it will go very fast. second the child belongs to the mother and no one else."

I really interested to find out the real reason, and i think the answer Constantine XI gave is more sensfull than other reasons.

First of all I really am sorry that I hadn't read your first post properly, so I replied with that point of veiw.

Afterwards as you said that Constantine XI's answer was more sensfull which said; "It is quite simple, really. Islam was a relgion tailor-made to suit the needs of the Arab people in the sixth century. It accommodated their needs."

Ok we now know why Islam banned it, now could you eleborate us why did Christianity, Judiasm and all other major religions banned this act ?

Don't worry about it, i do this mistake permanently

No, i said this theory is more sensefull than other reasons i have read here. Still i think i am missing a better and sensefull reason.

I don't know, and this is why i ask this question here. But let us first find out a satisfying answer to this question about Islam. Another major religions will have another reasons, or maybe the same reasons for this act.

Btw, to my knowledg only Islam gives men the permission to have more than one wife. Another majore religions don't.

You are right, there is no need to practice it anymore now. In Islam, it is said that it's better you take one wife,  can take two only on the basis that you can equally treat them (which it's always difficult to do), and the limit is four.  It's clear that Islam discourages poligamy, which was well established before Islam as Constantine XI stated.

As for your initial question, if woman fought in the battlefield, workoutside to support the family (several husbands who give birth to the children ), And physiologically and psychologically made some changes, then they might have had this previlege.

The following is a very unique case ...

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060502/ap_on_fe_st/unusual_couple - http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060502/ap_on_fe_st/unusual_coup le

Couple, 33 and 104, Reportedly Marry

hmm.. u guys knw about this?

because the old granny married more thn 20 times..  due to re-marriage and divorce.. just to inform tht muslims women do not practice married more thn one person in a time...

Now she is looking for second wife for her husband... i'm confuse..

You know it is a western media. They always are very concerning to mention the poligamy when they get any chance to.

I have answered this befor, look:

why a muslim woman needs to have more thn a husband Maziar? As wht Mira had asked u previously..

It isnt only regarding the child belong to who but Islam rules and regulations itself... i think u knw that..

A child must be named and follow the father's surname.. not the mom's name.. and it's already being discussed so many times in AE about man leadership and rights in Islam. Only one man.. a father will lead the family.. not the mom. I dont think it is practicle to have a wife with few husbands in a family.. and it just not so acceptable in Islam.. Yucks!

Hmmm.. I guess those men who willing to be married and share his wife with other guys are not man enough.. lol

Futhermore... a man will be the 'wali' for his children when they are getting married (refer to daughters).. the responsibility has been given to the man not to woman.

Mazier, answer me please:

Are women same as men physiologically and psychologically? Are their responsibilities in the societies and families the same?

If the answer is no, then how come they can be equal?

In Islam, it is stated very clearly that women are the clothes of men, as the same men are the clothes of women.  As men take more responsibilities for the families, then they should be a level higher in position. The reason is:

Their more responsibilites came from the structure of the society and men's physical and mental abilities, which somehow protects women from engaging in social struggle.  How come one can claim Islam favours men, while it's requiring more responsibilites from men?

Sorry, but if you think like that, so can't provide you a logically answer, becouse you don't think logically. Your way of thinking is inherited by your forfathers and very obsolete.