How exciting to begin this subject with differences in honor killing. When you say in the Christian west it would be the male killed, are you saying something like "shot gun marriages"? When informed of the Muslims killing their daughters, the father shooting the male instead of his daughter didn't come to mind. However, thanks to the other reading you encouraged me to do, I have learned even before Christianity Rome had begun protecting women, children and slaves, and humantarian values were coming up through philosophy. The protection of women, children and slaves was brought into their legal system. But in contrast, the Prusians brought into their legal system, law that favored males and could put women at risk.
The Book of Esther relates that King Xerxes' advisors urged him to banish his queen, who had disobeyed his commands, lest "the great ladies of Persia and Media who have heard of the queen's behavior" imitate her independence. The King's counselor also recommended that the banishment order "be inscribed in the laws of the Persians and Medes, never to be revoked." Xerxes followed their advice, ordering all women in the empire to "give honor to their husbands high and low alike."
Time/Life book on Persia.
I have read, the treatment of women and children is very dependent on the hardness or ease of life. When life circumstances are hard, women are treated badly, and the easier life gets, the better women are treated. But it seems when women begin working divorce and abortion rates increase. It is not easy to raise children alone. We know divorce puts children at risk, and the way inner city slum youth handle this is gangs, and we are back to lawlessness and killing.
Might we say honor societies reinforce family order and family order reinforces all other morals?
Dueling reinforced morality, and was based on the idea that God would protect the person who was in the right. This understanding of God is behind Lincoln and the American Civil War. Lincoln believed God wanted us to settle the slavery issue through war. We love to believe God is behind us when we go to war. Unfortunately, both the north and south used the bible to support their position on the slave issue and both believed God was behind them.